This Sex Which Is Not One

To be honest, when first encountering this essay, I was highly puzzled as it is true that my own notion of sexuality or feminism has been vague and I did not hold any clear understanding of it. As Emily points out, when Irigaray asserts that men needs instruments including "his hands, women's body, and language..." (24). And afterward, the author explains how a woman is able to touch herself without an instrument unlike men. However, what had me extremly intrigued comes from the relationship between the two opposite sex. As Irigaray claims that female "sexuality has always been conceptualized on the basis of masculine parameters", is it that men serves as an agent to give rise to women's sexuality? Or, while woman's body serves as men's instrument, can men be woman's mediator in finding and realizing her sexuality?